On February 11th, Don't Cry Over Spilled Milk Day is celebrated to remind us to promote a positive attitude even when things don’t quite go our way. As a parent, it is important to not only stay positive during tough moments and hardships, but to also instill this positive attitude in your child from a young age.
Parenting is never easy, and unfortunately, we all naturally tend to focus on the negative. This is even more true for children; which is why we’ve compiled 5 of the best positive parenting tips to employ in the good times –– and the bad. These techniques will help you create a positive environment in which you can truly nurture your child’s emotional and personal development. So, this February 11th, let’s not cry over spilled milk and instead enjoy the silver lining!
What Makes a Positive Parent?
According to psychologists, “positive parents” deal with obstacles by avoiding harsh punishment when correcting problematic behavior. Just because punishment works, doesn’t mean it’s the best method for your child. Positive parents seek to actively fulfill their child’s emotional needs through positive interactions, which can in turn prevent bad behavior from even happening in the first place. Want to use positive parenting in your home? Below are 5 techniques that you can start using today.
5 Positive Parenting Tips & Techniques:
As an adult, it can be difficult to remember how confusing, frustrating, and arduous childhood can be. Every emotion your child feels is completely valid, including anger. Listening with openness, letting them know that these feelings are normal –– and that you understand how they are feeling –– will go a long way when fostering self-acceptance.
- Use Positive Reinforcement
Positive reinforcement is a concept often used in behavioral psychology to help teach, as well as strengthen, positive behaviors. When your child does something good, you can reinforce this behavior by giving them attention, verbal recognition, or tangible rewards. This method is effective for any age and can start as early as the toddler stage. Conversely, you should withhold reinforcement for negative behaviors (i.e. not reinforcing tantrums with a bottle of milk to make them stop crying).
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- Turn Mistakes Into Learning Opportunities
Even negative situations, and especially mistakes, can become teachable moments for kids. Instead of punishing your child when they make a mistake, shift the focus to helping them learn and grow, so they can do better next time. For example, if your child misbehaves, explain to them what the positive outcome of good behavior in the same situation would be.
- Expect the Unexpected
Childhood and infancy can be wildly unpredictable. If you, as a parent, are prepared for each outcome, it is more likely that you will respond to negative experiences in a calm and rational manner. Modeling good behavior is the best way to lead by example. If you are a new parent, it can be even trickier to stay prepared. Baby Brezza can help you focus on the important moments and make bottle making a breeze with time-saving products like the 1-Step Formula Mixer and Bottle + Breastmilk Warmer.
- Encourage Curiosity, Independence & Personal Development
Fostering curiosity in childhood is important, as it encourages children to become more observant and figure things out on their own. This independence and inquisitiveness allows them to expand their knowledge and problem solving skills in every aspect of their development.
What Is the Most Positive Parenting Style?
An authoritative parenting style is widely recognized as the best approach, as it can often produce the best overall outcomes. Authoritative parents teach values and reasoning by supporting and guiding their kids through open and honest discussions. They allow their children to make mistakes, but also remain a strong, trusted resource for their child at all times. Children raised by authoritative parents are often more likely to develop into independent, successful, and well-behaved adults.
While practicing positive parenting can sometimes be difficult and more time consuming, the long-term benefits of being patient will always outweigh the struggle. Not only will you benefit from positive parenting, but your child will learn essential skills like listening, cooperating, problem solving and self-regulation. So, let's celebrate National Don't Cry Over Spilled Milk Day by practicing positivity!