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How To Manage A Toddler Resisting Bedtime

By Molly Leighton, Certified Pediatric Sleep Coach, Sleep Shore Sleep Consulting

Does this sound familiar? You made dinner and negotiated with your 3-year-old to take 5 bites in exchange for a cookie. Hustled through your bedtime routine– which burned more calories than a Cody Rigsby spin class. You let your toddler pick out another book, sing a lullaby, and line up their stuffed animals. You say goodnight, close the door, and finally sit on the couch for the first time in 4 hours– and then you hear the door open. Insert cringe. Sounds like you’ve got a case of toddler bedtime resistance coming in strong.

Toddlers are constantly testing boundaries, and as a parent, it is incredibly challenging to navigate, and it is a normal, natural phase of being a toddler! Bedtime is a gold mine for toddler boundary-pushing, and unfortunately, you are the only one that can keep the trains moving forward! If your toddler has too much energy at night, it can weigh on you as a parent– and can take a toll on your toddler’s moods at night and in the morning, too.

Requesting another book, needing to go pee, wanting to kiss the dog, needing water, the list goes on and on. Toddlers resisting bedtime is extremely common and normal. This can be a time when parents fall back to old habits or create new habits that give into their toddler’s behavior, and bedtime can become a 2-hour circus production. Parents need the tools to help drive bedtime forward and limit bedtime resistance! In this guide, we’ll go over a few key ways you can handle your hyper toddler at bedtime, from certain types of play to knowing which bedtime snacks for toddlers work best. Let’s jump in!

How To Manage A Toddler Resisting Bedtime

Avoid The Main Causes of Toddler Bedtime Resistance

One part of bedtime resistance you can control is the process leading up to bedtime itself. For toddlers and school-aged children, winding down and getting prepared (both mentally and physically) for bedtime can take 2 hours for some children. Now don’t worry, you don’t have to go overboard and create a 2-hour bedtime routine– but try to be thoughtful and pointed about the activities that your toddler is doing an hour or two before bedtime. Here are some tips to help your toddler with getting ready for the bedtime routine. Soon enough, you’ll learn to get rid of that pesky toddler bedtime resistance with just a few easy maneuvers.

Tips for minimizing bedtime resistance for the hyper toddler

Try to create a relaxing environment about an hour before bedtime (this is measured from the beginning of the process to lights out). No roughhousing before bed or aggressive play at this point, no screen time, and nothing sugary to eat or drink. Your goal is to help prepare your child’s body for a long stretch of sleep.

Bedtime snacks for toddlers can be beneficial for sleep in two ways:

1) It can fill their belly so that they don’t keep waking up during the night, contributing to your toddler resisting bedtime.

2) Depending on what the child eats, it can actually help them sleep through the night! The right bedtime snacks for toddlers can actually combat bedtime resistance if you know what to feed your little one!

Not all snacks are the same, as some can give your child too much energy before bed. Below are examples of nutritious snacks that are proven to naturally fight bedtime resistance and help lead to good sleep:

  • Hummus and whole grain crackers
  • Whole grain bread/toast
  • Kiwis
  • Bananas
  • Cherries or tart cherry juice
  • Plain yogurt with granola and/or fresh bananas or cherries (or other fruits)
  • Oatmeal
  • Almonds
  • Low-sugar cereal with milk
  • Pretzels
  • Plain bagel

A word of caution about giving anything with fruit, dairy products, or regular cereal: If you’re going to offer these foods, be aware that there is sugar in these foods that could give your child a sudden boost of energy, leading to a hyper toddler at bedtime that may frustrate Mom and Dad before it’s their bedtime, too. You might want to experiment with them first to see if your child has a reaction. Aside from bedtime snacks for toddlers, there are plenty of other strategies to employ when your toddler has too much energy at night.

Tips for minimizing bedtime resistance for the playful toddler

Bedtime yoga is wonderful for children who need to calm their bodies a bit before bedtime. Some children find this to be overly stimulating, while others enjoy this physical activity prior to making their way to the bedroom. Sleepy Little Yoga is one of my favorite books to help calm the body and the mind through yoga. Where some parents may think roughhousing before bed may make for a sleepier baby, yoga combines exercise with a soothing bedtime-prep process, creating the perfect step to try before bedtime.

For children having a hard time settling their minds and thoughts, you can put on a guided meditation. This would occur during the last 10-15 minutes of his routine and should take place with him lying in his bed listening to a guided meditation for children. There are lots of free guided meditations on YouTube, and you can start with a free trial on Head Space .

They are very relaxing for the brain, which is good for a child who may be feeling a bit of anxiety at bedtime.  Remember, however, that if you choose to listen to these meditations, you’ll want the screen to be dark to avoid any exposure to technology. If your little one is still showing signs of bedtime resistance beyond the guided meditation, try some breathing routines!

Deep Breathing Deep breathing is a powerfully relaxing exercise that kids and adults of all ages can utilize to relax and get ready for sleep. A toddler resisting bedtime may easily lull themselves to sleep by focusing and relaxing their breathing. You can make this a part of your nightly routine by doing the following:

  1. Tell your child to pretend that you just baked his favorite flavor of cake (you can use a pretend cake or draw one for a visual).
  2. Ask him to smell the cake (he should breathe in deeply through his nose).
  3. You will count to 3.
  4. Then you’ll direct him to blow out all of the candles on his cake (he should pretend to do so)!
  5. Do this with him 3x.

Exercise can be super helpful for your child to get a good night’s sleep! The more physically active he is throughout the day, the better he’ll sleep at night. When the body has been stressed like that, it will automatically attempt to recover from this stress by producing more deep sleep than usual that night. Exercise also improves your child’s mood and helps to reduce stress, anxiety, or tension. Your hyper toddler at bedtime will have a much harder time resisting sleep if they’re good and tuckered out when it’s time to rest!

“Exercising” simply means being physically active. For your child that might mean riding a trike, dancing, running, skipping, jumping, playing at the park, swimming, or playing in the snow. For days that you can’t get outside try dancing, playing tag, doing some jumping jacks, or games like “Simon Says” (where he can copy your moves).

As long as your child does at least 20-30 minutes’ worth of physical activity during the day, he’ll be more tired at night. Just try to avoid exercising too close to bed, as it will raise his body temperature, making it more difficult to fall asleep. Quiet or calming activities are better suited before bed, if possible. Toddler bedtime resistance can come in all forms, and even the slightest bit of overstimulation can contribute to the problem!

Tips for minimizing bedtime resistance for the toddler who loves screens

Screen time is scientifically proven to delay the onset of sleep in that it exposes the retina to blue light and delays the onset of melatonin production. This can cause both children and adults to struggle with falling and staying asleep– meaning it can keep the bedtime resistance going even longer than ever. Therefore, you’ll want to avoid any sort of electronic time at least 60 minutes before bed. Instead, I would encourage your child to have quiet play activities, such as coloring, drawing, puzzles, legos, crafts, imaginary play, dress up, etc. Think about how much later we stay up when we scroll in bed– your toddler resisting bedtime for the same reason will lead to the same results!

Make Sure You Have A Consistent Toddler Bedtime 

A key factor in dealing with your hyper toddler at bedtime is to get their body used to resting at the same time each night. Having a bedtime routine with a clear, consistent series of events is critical for toddlers to help them learn to fall asleep. This will help minimize bedtime resistance. Be consistent. About 30 minutes before bed, start with the bedtime routine. For this age, I’d recommend something similar to the following sequence:

  • Bath (on bath nights)
  • Bathroom (if potty trained) or change into diaper
  • Brush teeth 
  • Change into pajamas
  • Let your toddler pick 2 or 3 books (giving him options will help give him a sense of power throughout the routine, but limiting the options also establishes the boundaries)
  • Sing a song
  • Turn on sound machine
  • Shut off light
  • Lay into bed, say goodnight, I love you
  • Close the door and leave

If your toddler has too much energy at night, figuring out how to get them ready to rest can make you both lose valuable sleep. Try combating bedtime resistance with light exercise like yoga, finding the right bedtime snacks for toddlers that your little one will love and be lulled by, and avoiding roughhousing before bed so they don’t get too amped up before snoozing! Solving toddler bedtime resistance can take time, but persistence and the right sleep schedule can go a long way.

Feel like you’ve tried all of this? Or maybe you need someone to help implement it and coach you along the way!

Baby Brezza is proud to partner with sleep coach and Mom Molly Leighton. She can help you get your your baby on a solid schedule and achieve your goals. Contact Molly at, visit her website at or follow her on Instagram (@sleep.shore) or Facebook (@sleepshore) 


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